Masculine/feminine

Overcompensation seems to be a problem with most people. We react emotionally to something and go to extremes to compensate. We usually miss the middle. Our relationship to our mother and father shows in our relationship to chaos and order. With tensions with the father we may be against order and with tensions with mother we may be a against chaos or spontaneity. Mother/ father relationship forms the basis for the child's relationship to the inner polaritys. If mother dominates the household then the child will be dominated within by the female traits, at least until the child becomes a individuated adult. Until I person seperates them self psychologically from the parental influence then it seems to be a on going relationship which can change on way or another but your always at the mercy of the parents relationship to one another. While it's true that a person can free themselves from this influence by becoming self aware, it may take a long time and not happen until they are older. I'm concerned with modern movements like feminism, socialism, government support, etc, because if the instinctual family structure is altered, it causes all kinds of collective imbalances.  In allot of poor communities you have allot of kids growing up without much of a father figure, largely in part becouse food stamps allow women to get by alone without a man. This starts a viscous cycle where the boys grow up without structure and become irresponsible and then the women claim they are not supporting them and the cycle keeps on repeating.  Feminism has the danger of making some men afraid to be masculine because of ridicule. It eventually goes back to that overcompensation idea. What's happening now is compensation for years of male dominance but it's going to the other extreme. The only hope I see is in individuals becoming aware of themselves apart from the collective. It feels sometimes like we as modern humans are a long long way from where we came from, those ancient days where we lived by the laws of instinct and nature. Seems like a hopeless struggle to get back there sometimes, but I think we will have to in some way or other either by choice or by catastrophe.